"I’m here if you want to talk." … In my history of being fucked up I NEVER wanted to talk about it. I knew that I should, but the phrasing let me put off dealing with how much talking about the painful stuff was going to suck. So I didn’t. Not for years.
"Let me know if you need anything." Wow, people who trust those of us who are obviously unstable to know what we need think WAY TOO HIGHLY of us. I barely know what I need NOW. So why do I keep saying it to other people?
Instead I’ll say this, “You should talk to someone. It doesn’t have to be me, but I’ll try my best to be there for you if it is me.”
Say, “What do you need? Please think about it and let me know. It wish I knew how to take care of you better.”